They say that there are only two certainties in life – death and taxes. But, I would argue that there is a third, which perhaps even trumps the first two – heartbreak.
When you begin dating someone, it’s funny to think that you’ll either end up marrying or breaking up with them. And unless you marry the first person you date, you can almost guarantee at some point in your life, you’ll go through heartbreak.
In this post, I’ll be sharing the ways that I’ve gotten through heartbreak, and how you can too! There is always light at the end of the tunnel.
1.Take some time to wallow in your feelings and cry it all out – crying is very healing and helps release pent up feelings.
2. Write out your feelings – if you still have things to say to your ex but can’t actually speak to the, write out your feelings and then throw away the paper – you’ll feel much better afterwards.
3. Get moving – one of the best ways to release bad energy and emotions is to exercise. Whether that’s running, boxing or yoga, it will help to make you feel better.
4. Practice some self care – do all the typical ‘self care’ activities – have a bath, do a face mask, go for a massage. Even if only temporary, they can boost your mood.
5. Get out into nature – taking a walk, going for a picnic or just sitting enjoying a view can blow away the cobwebs and boost feel good hormones
6. Take up a new hobby – occupying your mind is a must in times of heartbreak, and use the time to hone a skill you already have, or taking up a new one.
7. Socialise – hang out with friends, join groups in your local area – isolating yourself in a time like this can make you feel 100 times worse, so surround yourself with fun and supportive people.
8. Remove memories of your ex – if it’s hurting you to look at pictures of the two of you together or to wear the jumper they got you, be strict with yourself and bin them.
9. Empower yourself – after a break up, we can suffer a little loss of confidence. So to boost it back up, practice some self love and affirmations to remind you of your power.
10. Work on your transformation – a break up can be a good time to develop yourself personally – book in for a coaching session or read some self help books.
11. Don’t focus on getting revenge – the best ‘revenge’ is living well and being happy, so focus on that rather than egging their house or anything.
12. Don’t feel guilty – about being sad, about not being sad, about what you could have done to save the relationship – forgive yourself and move on.
13. Try to look for the bright side – there IS a bright side. Whether that’s not having to pretend to enjoy watching dumb movies anymore, or having more time to yourself. Focus on the good.
14. Meditate – if you were looking for the right time to start meditating, now is it! Meditation is great for healing a broken heart, boosting your mood and forgiving yourself and your ex.
15. Start dating again when the time is right for YOU – if that’s 6 weeks or 6 years. Dating soon after a break up can be good for some people as it helps distract the mind, but for others, more healing time is necessary.
I recently read a quote that said ‘Don’t be afraid of heartbreak – when the heart breaks, it just opens up to more love.’ This is a beautiful sentiment, and true – so much self development and happiness can come about because of a break up, even though you feel so devastated at the time.
Take care of yourself, and don’t forget your power.
Lots of love,
Natalie xx
